Repeat

I bumped into my friend’s father last week and they asked me to join them since I was dining at the same place.

As I took my seat, uncle asked me a few questions and somehow or rather we talked about Malaysia’s current generation.

To illustrate his points, he told me his story:

I went for hajj few years back and then I asked my friend yg pergi sekali tu

‘Kenapa kita kena sembahyang 5 times a day’

My friend said ‘Hey kau ni ada tanya soalan mcm tu. We are in the holy land!’

Uncle responded ‘I don’t think Allah will penalize me for being curious. Maybe I am ignorant la kan but He will always guide us to find the right answer apa.”

My friend said ‘Ok la, the only answer I can think of is it’s our duty as a Muslim as He is our creator’

Feeling unsatisfied with my friend’s answer, I prayed and all I ever thought was my question that I have unanswered. I remained focused in my prayers with that question in mind and I managed to touch Ka’abah and asked Allah the same question.

That night, I dream byk sangat benda but those things are repetitive. Same scene but repeated. The next day, I the word “repeat” was stuck in my head.

It’s been like that for few days.

At last, I heard a father telling his Son. “If you can’t find the answer you are looking for.. pray again. When you repeat InsyaAllah Allah will guide you to your answer”

Then I was absolute God has answered my question.

So basically, if you want something focus, concentrate and repeat. Besides our duty as a Muslim, Allah is forgiving and merciful. Allah will guide us to all our unanswered questions and queries. Besides our obligations as a Muslim, praying five times a day and repeating every day will always guide you for whatever you prayed for at that time.

All in all, just like my example. I think budak-budak these days should put it in mind. If you want something focus, concentrate and repeat. InsyaAllah they will achieve whatever they are looking for.

After I went back, I thought “Simple questions, simple answers, singnificant story” .


At times we throw looks at those who asked this sort of question.
At times the answer is simple but unsatisfactory.

The question is simple but taboo to people in general.
Allah will always have the answer even for the simplest and taboo question.

If I were to count the look I get or the statements being thrown at me. All I could think of is this story. For that story I have Uncle to thank for. 

This is a piece of cake...Not!

I was often irritated when people asked me "So what do u think of eastern and western cultures"

Another one of those questions again.

I don't think people understand when I say "Culture is a subjective terms"

I answered my friend the same way I answered everyone else.

"Take in the good, leave the "bad" cultures behind"

By “bad” it means the ones that’s out of your beliefs & upbringing.

Then the whole Q & A started.

I stopped him and say "Here's the thing, if in the west they kick their son/daughter out of the house at 18. Definitely family bond is strained but these kids can fend for themselves better don't you think? They became very independent at early age but you know to each person the experience is different la kan"

Sometimes we get so caught up with the idea that our culture is better than the other that it makes us forget what our point of comparing is. Is it to feel good or superior than the other or just simply to separate the two ideologies?

However after years of debating on these issues, I came to the idea that I should just nod my head in approval with whatever they think is right.

Life is all about labels’. I just wonder when will those labels expires. I come to terms that it will never have an expiry date.

To sum it all up, sometimes the grass is greener on the other side. When you have been to that other side of the fence, you still come home to a home cook food.

Pictures that worth a thousand word

Found a bunch of pictures. All these pictures are taken using my camera and camera phones.

A thing or 2 about Love

How I perceived Relationship.

1. You partner date you for who you are.

2. Your partner date you because he/she loves your company

3. Your partner date you because he/she could recall the way you laugh or smiled

4. Your partner date you because you are there when he/she needs your support.

5. Your partner date you because he/she loves the way you make them feel.


Fallacies I observed in relationships

1. You can't change a person but you can accomodate.

2. You & your partner get so caught up with each other that you don't make time for your friends and families.

3. You see your values through your partner's eyes.

4. You lost your sense of independence because you have someone to rely on.

How I see marriage

1. Previously people get into marriages without thinking about divorce. Now as much as we hate to admit it. We do think about divorce.

2. A lot of people who are married told me, "Trust your partner but not a 100% even if dah kahwin". That is why some of these ladies have their fixed investments and never send the mail to their home address.

3. It takes more than chemistry and love. Love alone is not enough to sustain a marriage. Love runs out sometimes, that is why on certain days you questioned "Why do i marry this guy that snores like a cow?!"

4. Marriage takes hard work. If you enter a marriage not thinking about a divorce, I would say "Well done, we need more people like you" because if it's divorce that you are thinking, then divorce is what you will get.

5. Marriage is about making that effort to learn about what works for your better half. What works for your family day in and day out.

I am still a student of "relationship". All I know is your partner dates you for who you are and if it changes you then you have to take a step back and ask "Do i like these changes?".

For all you singles out there always remember there's a thin line that saperates requirements and complibilities. A person can fulfill your requirements but lack in compatibilties or like wise.

For those who has a lot of experience in Love, you should learn and use those knowledge to the next person you are with. The Do's and Don'ts , hence "Relationship is about dealing with regrets". All because you try to make yourself a better partner every single day and sometimes you fall short or you forget. When you forget, you'll learn how to remember and go from there.


I remember someone saying "Sometimes it is not about choosing the right person. Most of the time it's about choosing the right relationships" and I thought that phrase was so spot on! Til then have a breezy Sunday everyone :)

Lifehouse

I've always been a fan of Lifehouse.

Their lyrics are poetry and the best thing is, it's inspiring too. I had their album from 2005. It was one of the bands that I just bought the album "to check it out."Turns out, they are no ordinary band. I don't think I could find a song that I don't like in their album.

It's been a long time I didn't buy Original Cd. The last one I bought was Peterpan's album. So I checked out the lyrics of Who We Are , Life house 2007 album and I thought "what took me so long?!" so yesterday, I just bought RM36 Who We Are cd.

Jason Wade a.k.a the vocalists/lead wrote almost all of the songs and arranged them too. The guy is super talented & the best part is we share birthdays! His was 5th July 1980.

My favorite song would be Broken & Disarray.

As I read further, Broken is featured in One Tree Hill and Time Traveler's Wife.

I kind of freaked out a little bit. One Tree Hill is my fav series and Time Traveler’s Wife was the movie I wanted to watch badly in the states but tough luck, no one wants to watch a sappy romantic movie with me. It'll be here soon! Though I have to say Rachael McAdam is not my cup of tea.

The thing I observe about great musicians like Life House & One Republics are they came from religious families but they go through a great deal of tests in their lives. They need an outlet and that outlet of theirs cashed in millions!

So Jason Wade who was born on the same birthday I did, only 4 years older wrote this

Snippets of

Disarray
Struggling between the facts and fiction I'm alone
But I'm alive
Everyone around me is trying to make a statement
Then there's me
I'm just trying to survive

Some day I'm gonna find it wish i knew what i was looking for
inside the disarray
I woke up this morning don't know where I'm going but it's
Alright I wouldn't have it any other way

If this was any other day I'd pretend to know where I stand
I just don't know

From your coolest aunt ;)

I can’t wait to be an aunt

Don’t panic, my sister is NOT pregnant!
But my best friend is and I am super excited.

It’s a different feeling actually. When you are an aunt because your cousin gave birth, you just realized “Damn! I am old!!!!”

When you best friend is pregnant, you get excited, you realized “I want to be that hot aunt!” and I even told Mira that.

I want to be the aunt that taught her baby what “mama and papa don’t teach”.
I want to be that aunt that said “C’mon kiddo, don’t stay within line of right and wrong. The world is your oyster, swim the sea of possibilities. It’s fun!”

All because I know Mama and Papa is looking out for you.
All because Mama and Papa wants you safe.
All because Mama and Papa wants to protect you.

I have no doubt that Mama and Papa will provide you with the greatest TLC.

I also know that Mama and Papa will scold you if you climb that “pagar” that could make you fall.

I also know that Mama and Papa will “pukul you sikit” if you don’t listen because they have the “reward & punish scheme”

I also know that Mama and Papa will find it hard when you talk on the phone for so long, obsessed over hot guys/girls and finally dated that girl/guy that they think “you deserve better”

All because they want to protect you from that fall, from that mistakes, from that heartaches.

That’s where you will have your aunt to turn to. Of course I will call your mom up and ask what’s up and ask her “what you want me to do with this budak nakal”

But other than being your aunt, I want to be your friend too.

I want to take you to concerts, to that rollercoaster rides, to that ‘secret’ date that mama and papa don’t know (Mira don’t worry I’ll bring him/her back on time and I will tell you who is that girl/guy your kid is out with) and I also want to be that aunt that say “Okay kiddo, what do you wanna do next”

For you kiddo, I won’t say “don’t make mistakes” I will say “Make them but sooner” because you will have time to undo the mistakes later and InsyaAllah you will have your mama, papa and your aunt to be your motivator.

You know from whom I learned this from? From my Parents (don’t worry you will meet them when you are old enough to remember their name)

My parents are not just a parental figure; my parents are my best friend. My dad knows I will make mistakes, he let me but with a warning that I might get burn. When I get burned, he throw in salt to a fresh wound but there’s my mom who removed it fast with water, tissues and a calamine lotion. After the pain subsides there’s my dad who will sit down and apologized for throwing in salt on a fresh wound. He will hug me and say “I will always be there for you. You will always be daddy’s little girl”

I have no doubt that you will have the best upbringing all because you have a great Mama and Papa. The ones that will let you learn through experience but will stand by with a first aid kit when you are wounded.

Me? Your aunt, I am just here to see your adventurous journey and I will help you with your wildest and widest dreams. I will also “Pulas” your ears when your wildest dreams get too much to my “weary” ears.

I don’t know how you will look like and who will you be. All I know is I am excited for your arrival because I know you will be welcomed into a great family and a sea of possibilities. Enjoy that warm place for now little one, you have another 5 months (5 months kan mira?) before your journey begins ;)

From your “Coolest” Aunt..


PS: Mira I put aunt cuz I don’t want any1 to know, nanti semua nak tiru. Cheh!