1,2,3,4

So it's true, Muslim man can get married up til four.

-AND-

God created women with more desires as compared to man. We are soft and sensitive in nature.

So you know where this is heading to?

The Polygamy issue.

My stand? I have not thought about it thoroughly. Let me;

1. Find a man
2. Get married

Then only speak/worry about the big vocab : POLYGAMY

Here's the usual scenario

Man's saving grace: It is allowed in Islam.

Women's saving grace: Are we talking lust or just?

Typical of both men and woman.

So I was reading Surah An-Nisa' (The Women)

Here is what I found

They ask your legal instruction concerning women, say : Allah instructs you about them and about what is recited to you in the Book concerning orphan girls whom you give not the prescribed portions (as regarded Mahr and inheritance) and yet whom you desire to marry, and (concerning) the children who are weak and oppressed, and that you stand firm for justice to orphans. And whatever good you do, Allah is Ever All-Knower of it. 4:127

I believe the criteria of girls that a guy can marry more are orphans and according to stories of Prophets , most women are either divorced or slaves.

Not a young, single, career woman that are well taken care off :P

And if woman fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no sin on them both if they make terms of peace between themselves; and making peace is better. And human inner self is swayed by greed. But if you do good and keep away from evil, verily, Allah is Ever Well-Acquainted with what you do 4:128

If you see clearly, Muslim women are well respected. Their rights are clearly stated in the Quran. As contrary to "Western" assumptions. I suppose Yvonne Ridley comes across this surah too as she is writing about muslim women and their rights.

You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much(to one of them by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave (the other) hanging (i.e neither divorce or married). And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear Allah (by keeping away from all that is wrong), then Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. 4:129

The word in bold pretty much sums it up.:)

But if they separate (by divorce), Allah will provide abundance for everyone of them from His bounty. And Allah is Ever All-Sufficient for His creatures' needs, All Wise 4:128

I believe Allah knows best. He is All Knowing and He is All Just.

Polygamy on a man's part is bigger than what a typical man dream off.

I believe one should follow His Guidance, treat their woman right, financially stable and the terms and conditions goes on- before one decided to get married to more wives.

I believe woman should really know ourselves and emotions well, be close to God, read the rewards/punishment if one's husband decided to embarked on polygamy. Soul searching to sum it up.

POLYGAMY is a big word, more difficult than just counting 1,2,3,4.

It is not just pure leisure nor pure drama.

I respect those who are able to go through emotional journey with polygamy.

Till then, I remain a humble servant.

Have a blissful day everyone.