Why I love the back seat

I was reading my childhood friend's (Melissa) blog. The entry was about the wedding frenzy that everyone is having. Plus, sudden realization such as "Ok now i have a huge ass diamond ring on my finger, NOW WHAT?" and the line such as "But, I've came across a few, where I think "Why are you getting married when you can't even stand each other??!!".

First of all,Mel don't panic I am not getting married anytime soon. What I wanna blog about is something we take for granted everyday when we sit in the backseat of our parent's car. There's a lot of things about relationship that you could watch from the backseat of a car.

I went to the mall today. Nawar's parents drove us there. On the way back, I decided to watch them from the backseat. Then I realized, the way uncle teased Aunty Sami'ah and laughed when she gets upset. The stories they share with each other. The whole way back was never filled with silence. We are talking about a couple who sees each other everyday for the past 25-30 years and still they don't run out of things to talk about and best still the image of them teasing each other remind me of 2 lil kids. Perhaps there's always a kid in us no matter how old we get.

There were times when I take the beackseat, I pretended to sleep. Actually I was wide awake and listening attentively to my parent's conversations. They talked a lot about the past, the ppl the know, their kids behavior and their regrets. Few lines I could remember clearly

"Abang, kita bagi nama salah la kat anak last kita ni. Nama Lyana dekat dengan Lena. Patutla tidur cepat sangat" - Regret

" Mah, Mah ingat tak masa kita pi Chiang Mai tu. Best kan, lani boleh la pi sekali lagi, anak2 kita dah besaq" - Past

"Tak tau la apa nak jadi dgn anak2 kita. Sorang suceed in Marriage, lagi sorang succeed in career. Tak boleh ka ada sorang yg dua dua ada?"- Kids

I love those conversations because they are not just husband and wife, they are a soul mate, even if they don't know it.

Every time I thought about increasing rate of divorce and fights couples have. It makes a lot of us scared to even think about marriage. Every time I have that feeling, I remember what I heard when I was in the back seat of the car. What I saw is the best example of relationship, making it work every single day, making your spouse the person to share your stories, teasing your spouse just to hear that laugh that makes u happy instantly.

So those who are married, I wish you will make it work every single day. Some of us need a good example of marriage that works becuz there are too many that proved otherwise. Sometimes all you need is one image to hold on to when everything else seems to work against it.

For my friend Mel,
I asked my parents a lot of question about how do they make their marriage work for 29 years. When you have doubts abt urs (c'mon admit it all married ppl hv that moment) perhaps you should ask ur parents. I know Aunty Linda and Unc Bernard will have a good answer for u.

For my friend Mira,
One of the coolest couple ever!!! With baby on the way (btw i dun wanna be called Aunty Lyana) I really hope you guys make it work every single day and i am convinced u guys are each others soul mate. Yes Mira, tiba2 jiwang la pulak kan? Hahah.. I'm still cool as school ok?! :P

So folks, those who are married and those who are not. "Love alone is not enough to sustain a marriage, once you are a best friend to your spouse, making sure you are there for each others hobbies, making them no.1 in ur life. That's the key to a successful marriage" After all the man who said this is happily married for 29years to a patient wife :)